Published On: Tue, Sep 9th, 2014

Understanding Your Anger Before It Takes Over You

People do things they don’t mean to when they’re angry. Naomi Campbell is infamous for her raged-filled episodes: in 2008, she was ordered by courts to pay reparation fees and perform community service after she was found guilty of throwing a cell phone at a housekeeper. It might be a product of her stressful life as a busy model and celebrity, but the truth is that even ordinary people like you can experience anger. Here’s what you need to know about your anger and how to keep it from getting out of control.

Photo/Femke Jenkins Photography

Photo/Femke Jenkins Photography

What is anger?

            Anger is often an emotional response that we have to different things in our lives. We’re often angry because we feel frustrated. It’s a feeling you can get every day. You can be angry with people, situations, or things. You can even be angry with yourself, or because of memories of things that have happened to you in the past. Common examples of stressors that can cause anger are traffic jams, noise, failed plans and traumatic memories.

When you get angry, you can physically feel it, too. Your heart might start beating faster, or you might start to sweat, you might even feel somewhat pumped up from adrenaline. You might feel it in your chest or in your hands. Sometimes you’ll feel hot in the face. Like other emotional responses, anger also affects your body and not just your mind.

How do we express anger?

            People express their angry in a lot of different ways, but the most usual way that anger is let out is by being aggressive. Anger is a natural response that we’ve developed for threats, and can make us feel powerful and aggressive in order to be able to confront these threats. But usually we don’t want to be angry, so we often handle it in three different ways; expressing it, suppressing it, or calming down. You can express anger by reasonably discussing your issues to being physically aggressive. You can suppress anger by either converting your feelings or by ignoring it. Finally, calming down makes use of taking control of your anger before you continue with whatever you were doing.

When is anger too much?

            Although anger is a natural feeling that many people experience sometimes multiple times a day, too much anger can become a problem. Some signs of excessive anger are being constantly irritable, being unnecessarily aggressive, and experiencing moments of explosive rage.

Do you feel angry all the time? Are those close to you afraid of when you get angry? Is your anger starting to cause you distress? Being too angry all the time can have dire consequences on your life and your relationships with others. When you feel that anger is starting to affect your life, then it might be too much.

What can you do?

There are a number of ways that you can manage your anger on your own, and they often involve being aware of what causes your anger and how you respond to them. Here is a short list of tips for you to follow.

  1. Find out what usually makes you angry and keep a note of them so you can prepare yourself or even avoid these situations.
  2. If you start feeling angry, give yourself some space. Removing yourself from a stressful situation can help you calm down and can keep you from doing something you might regret.
  3. Rewire how you think. Acknowledge to yourself and to others that you’re angry, and state why. Sometimes anger can make you think irrational thoughts, so keeping tabs on your reasons can help you stay on track.
  4. Think about what makes you angry. What is it about these things or situations that make you angry? Discovering these reasons can help you address these issues at the core.
  5. Take control of your body. If you start to feel that you’re becoming angry, use relaxation techniques like controlled breathing and stretching can help lessen the tension you’re feeling.

If despite following these tips you feel that your anger is getting out of control, don’t be afraid to seek professional help. Anger, although natural, can be a very volatile emotion that can destroy lives and relationships, so don’t wait for it to take over your life.

Guest Author: Gabby Roxas

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