Not the Worst Thing in the World for Women
The divorce rates of the United States have been dinner table conversation for decades now. Divorce is socially acknowledged as negative, particularly for women; and people enjoy cautioning women to think carefully before getting divorced. The popular factoid that 50% of marriages end in divorce is actually false; far fewer marriages today end in divorce, particularly fewer first marriages.
However, when divorce does come, it may not be the worst thing in the world for women — despite what cautionary tales you may have heard. More data than ever is suggesting that divorce may actually leave many women in a better position than marriage. What factors contribute to this interesting finding?
Financial Success
One of the most important parts of a divorce is making sure you get the money and assets which are fairly yours. With the proper legal representation, this can happen — and what’s more, the freedom that comes from divorce can be very beneficial financially to women.
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Higher income women self-report as financially better off after divorce than before. Of course, not everyone is as wealthy as the women in this survey; these were all women valued at $1 million or more. It’s easy to see why they may be better off after a divorce — but what if you’re not so wealthy?
A necessary divorce can benefit women who aren’t rolling in cash as well. If you’re married to somebody who isn’t pulling their weight financially, you may be held down by their financial needs. What’s more, if you’re with a partner who doesn’t reciprocate your emotional investment, you will find yourself out of energy when it comes to other aspects of your life, including professional, which could otherwise be enriched.
Freedom and Personal Fulfillment
An unhealthy marriage can be emotionally exhausting, and can limit your freedom. Men who aren’t good partners may cause you a lot of grief, and may even be controlling. If you’re in a marriage that you feel suffocated by and your partner shows no interest in your feelings, divorce may open the door to greater personal happiness for you.
You only get one life to live. No woman should be held back by a disrespectful or controlling partner. Divorce can mean freedom to pursue more fulfilling relationships and life goals you may have given up a long time ago. You may have invested a lot of energy in keeping your marriage going, while your partner didn’t meet you halfway. Imagine investing that energy in the projects you dreamed of doing before your marriage became a burden.
Conclusion
You deserve to have financial, emotional, and personal freedom in your life. While divorce is never easy, consider that staying in a marriage that makes you unhappy isn’t good for you. Take ownership of your own desires and needs; you can find happiness after a divorce, including happiness in a partner who deserves you.
Guest Author: Lolita Di
